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What to do when someone dies

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It’s never too early to get in touch, even before you need us. When someone has died, we’ll help you take the first steps.

If you need to arrange a baby or child’s funeral, please call us so we can offer the right guidance from your very first conversation.

First steps

Agreeing to bring your loved one into our care, and when
  • For us to bring your loved one into our care, death has to be verified by a medical authority (doctor, nurse, paramedic or similar).    
  • Some families want us to come as soon as possible – and we can.  Others may want time to say goodbye or for other family members to gather.  It’s entirely up to you. 
  • If we’re coming to a private residential or care home, someone on site will need to provide us with written authorisation on our consent form.  For hospitals, this authorisation must be provided in writing beforehand and can be done electronically.

 

We bring your loved one into our care where they can be looked after by our team of professionals
  • We’ll provide confirmation of the location and nearby branches. 
  • It’s not goodbye.  Families have an opportunity to visit loved ones in the branch nearest to them, a family home or place of worship. 

Registration

In order for a funeral to take place, the death has to be registered so it is important to start this process as soon as possible.

 

In Scotland (except Dundee, Angus and Fife) 

In Scotland, it is possible that a death certificate will be selected for review.  If this is the case, your funeral director will advise on next steps and timescales. For deaths in Scotland, the next of kin will be contacted by the Registrar of Births, Deaths and Marriages who will make an appointment locally to register the death. This may be by email or phone. You can download a Registration of Death form for your region via one of the buttons below.

Angus and Fife

For deaths in Angus and Fife, families should contact the Registrar of Births, Deaths and Marriages to arrange an appointment to register the death. In the event there is a delay in registrars receiving the certificates from medical authorities, they will guide families to anticipated timescales. In Scotland, it is possible that a death certificate will be selected for review. If this is the case, your funeral director will advise on next steps and timescales. You can download an Registration of Death form for Angus and Fife via the button below.

In England

Deaths in England must be registered in the local authority in which the death took place.  Following contact from the Medical Examiner’s Office, next of kin will be contacted to arrange an appointment to register the death, which must be completed within five days of that time.  Where a coroner is involved, registration guidance will be given directly to the families as longer timescales may apply. You can download a Registration of Death form for North East England via the button below.

Documents required by registrars

Some registrars issue a pre-screening questionnaire and others will use the appointment to confirm the following essential information. For the person who’s died, you’ll need:

 

    • Full name and occupation
    • Full postal address
    • Date and country of birth
    • National Insurance number
    • If the deceased was married or a civil partner at the date of death, tell the registrar the full name and date of birth of the surving widow, widower or civil partner
    • Father’s full name and occupation for any former spouses or civil partners
    • Details of any pension, benefits or allowance from public funds
    • The name and address of NHS doctor
    • Parental names and occupations
    • Marital status with partner(s) name, date of birth and occupation

 

You can make funeral arrangements any time before a death. However, only once registration is fully complete can these arrangements be formally announced or confirmed. Our teams will guide families as to the timescales likely to be involved.

Embalming

Embalming slows down the natural process that occurs after someone dies. It’s a service offered to allow families a safe way to say goodbye, especially if the funeral is likely to be some days later.

Personal effects

If you’re with your loved one, this is a good time to decide what clothes you’d like us to dress them in, or which personal effects you want to be with them. Or you can arrange for clothing to be dropped off or collected in the days that follow.

Visiting and saying goodbye

Coming into our care isn’t the last time you’ll be able to see your loved one again. We encourage visiting and can arrange this in the branch nearest to you, at home or in a place of worship. In our branches, you can visit a loved one as often as you want, in groups or solo visits. It’s really important you have this time to say goodbye, and we’ll do whatever we can to make these visits as peaceful as possible.

Timescales

Knowing the potential timescale of the funeral is important. In reality, the date of a funeral is influenced by many factors: time of year, personal circumstances, type of funeral and regional considerations. It’s easier to delay a funeral than to rush the planning stage. Once we know more about your requirements, your funeral director will guide you, so in turn, you can make or announce arrangements.

Meeting to arrange the funeral

To help you and your family approach the many decisions needed we’ll arrange a meeting with a funeral director who will be your point of contact throughout. These are usually done in-person but it’s equally possible to host video calls or a blend of both throughout. We can do this immediately or at a time and date that suits you, especially if you want to involve others who may not be local.

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Frequently asked questions

This may sound silly…

There’s no such thing as a silly question. We’re here to listen and help you to arrange a funeral with knowledge, insight and guidance. In fact, sometimes it’s that very question that helps shape a funeral that’s “just right”.

Can we bring personal nik-naks when we visit a loved one?

We encourage families to say goodbye by visiting their loved one before a funeral. Families have brought letters to read, finished the final chapter of a book, play music, leave drawings or toys, even have a nightcap or afternoon tea. It’s your time, so we’ll make it as personal and peaceful as you want, and you can bring what you need on the day. Read our ‘Visiting to say goodbye’ guide.

Who’s responsible for organising a funeral?

Arrangements for a funeral fall to the next of kin or executor who is named, often listed in a Will, funeral Plan of Wishes or prepaid plan. Chosen by the person who’s died, an executor does not necessarily have to be a relation. If there is any doubt as to who the next of kin is, we have a summary of the legal process followed in England and Scotland to determine responsibility. Read our ‘Who is the legal next of kin?’ guide.

Funerals take longer these days, why?

Nowadays, funerals take around 7-14 days to arrange. The timescales have crept up due to various factors: the length of administration to register and approve a funeral has increased; funerals are more personalised and individual which takes time rather than rush big decisions; and families are more scattered globally which slows down the decision making process as we factor in travelling requirements. It’s also true that the resources and techniques available to preserve someone who’s died and store them safely, have improved allowing families more time to make arrangements.

Can we fast track a funeral?

There are varying reasons funerals need to be arranged quickly. Religious requirements, repatriation logistics, personal circumstances, the type of funeral anticipated and regional considerations may play a part. If you have a particular timescale in mind, share this with your funeral director so, however possible, we can work with you to achieve this.

Should I ask for additional copies of the death certificate?

It’s useful to have extra copies of the “Certified Extract” or “Certified Copy of an Entry” as some institutions only accept originals, Registrars will charge a fee for these copies.

We're not sure if embalming is for mum?

Embalming is optional. It’s recommended if you anticipate a delay before the funeral takes place. This may be to allow family members to travel and say goodbye first. Or if the funeral itself takes more than a few days to arrange: registration turnaround times may be longer, venue or officiant availability may mean booking a later date than expected or a large event could require longer to arrange. It’s also recommended if you plan to spend time to say goodbye as embalming delays the natural process allowing your loved ones, and those who are caring for her, to be safe in doing so. Read our ‘The essentials of embalming’ guide.